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A few things I keep on the shelf

Nothing here is sponsored and nothing here is a prescription. These are just the things I've handed to friends across a table, more than once.

Books I keep re-reading

The ones with cracked spines and coffee rings on the cover.

  • Anything by Barbara Brown Taylor

    For the nights faith feels more like weather than certainty.

  • The Gifts of Imperfection Brené Brown

    Read it the year I stopped performing.

  • Psalms, unhurried

    Not a chapter a day. One line, sat with.

  • Bird by Bird Anne Lamott

    For anyone terrified of the first draft of anything.

For hard seasons

What I actually reach for, not what sounds noble.

  • A ten-minute walk with no phone

    Embarrassingly effective.

  • One honest text to one safe friend

    You don't have to summarize it well.

  • Therapy, unglamorously and consistently

    Faith and counseling are not competitors.

  • Psalm 34:18

    Close to the brokenhearted. Still true on the worst day.

In my kitchen

Because the coffee reference isn't only a metaphor.

  • A pour-over and four quiet minutes

    The slowness is the point.

  • Whole beans, medium roast, nothing fancy

    Fresh beats expensive every time.

  • The heavy cream

    Life is short. Use the good cream.

  • One mug that's actually yours

    Mine is chipped and I will not be replacing it.

For the leading years

Things I hand to the young women I mentor.

  • A written list of what you won't trade

    Decide before the offer comes.

  • One mentor, one peer, one person you're pouring into

    All three, always.

  • The phrase "let me think about that"

    A complete sentence. Use it freely.

  • A record of your wins

    Confidence is evidence you remembered to keep.

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